Valentines Day and Love
by Teresa, The CuteKid™ Staff|
“Love is what makes the world go ‘round” is a phrase often heard. Yet in many instances it is true. For children love is what makes their world go around. Love is essential for growth, development, and happiness. Children who feel loved will have higher self-esteem and develop healthier relationships with others into adulthood. A primary source of love for children is their parents. It is from their parents that they first learn about love. I can still remember the first time that each of my children said, “I love you” to me. They are moments that I cherish. The words “I love you” help express the emotions inside. But children will never learn to say those precious words unless they hear them. Sometime it can be difficult to say “I love you,” but it is so important. Work on telling your children that you love them daily. (It is also a good idea to do the same for your spouse.) You may assume that your children know that you love them but sometimes the words need to be spoken. I still remember as a teenager I never realized that my dad was proud of me until I overheard him boasting of my accomplishments to a friend. He just assumed I knew he was proud but never actually told me himself. Of course love doesn’t always have to be stated. There are many ways that we can let our children know that we love them. One way is to listen to your child when they are talking. Get down on their level and give them your full attention. Another great ways to say, “I love you” is to spend time together. You can do this by eating dinner together, developing traditions, playing games, or taking a vacation. Children also need physical affection. I’m sure you have heard of the studies done in orphanages that show that babies that do not receive physical affection will eventually fade away. It is important that you give your children hugs and kisses. When they are older you can limit it to pats on the back or high fives. The important thing is the physical connection between parent and child. Be careful that your child isn’t getting a mixed message. Actions often speak louder than words. If on one hand you are telling your child that you love them and then screaming at them the next minute, the screaming is what your child will remember not the expression of love. Valentines Day is a great time to let those you love know; that they are in your thoughts and heart. Try doing something special for your children & love this year. It doesn’t have to be elaborate. You might cut out paper hearts and write nice things about your child then tape them to their door. I know that my children love valentine day treats so try making some heart-shaped food. Cut out toast, sandwiches, or waffles with a heart cookie cutter. You can also make heart muffins or cupcakes by putting a marble in between the pan and cupcake wrapper (this makes the indention of the heart). It’s also a great idea to write down a special memory of your child and give it to them. Whatever you do remember that it is the love that counts.
This valentines day take time to let your children know that you love them no matter what they do. |
