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Building A Parent-Teacher Relationship

by Teresa, The CuteKid™ Staff


Having a good relationship with your childís teacher will help ensure that your child will be successful in school. You can do this by being involved in the school. Take advantages of opportunities to visit your childís classroom. The last couple of years I have attended school function and most classroom parties as well. Because of this I was able to get to know his teacher, felt comfortable with how she was teaching my son, and knew that she would contact me if any problems arose.

One of the best ways to build a good parent-teacher relationship is through parent teacher conferences. Each fall teachers set up a time to meet with parents and discuss their child academically, socially, and behaviorally. Many parents do not realize the importance of this meeting. As a prior teacher I can honestly say that if parents take the time to attend parent-teacher conferences it will benefit the child, teacher, and the parent. Here are some tips to help ensure that you have a successful parent-teacher conference.

1. Ask your child if they have anything that they would like you to talk about with their teacher. Any problems they are having with a subject, peer, or conflict with their teacher.

2. Write down any questions that you have or things that you want to discuss. This way you wonít get sidetracked and forget what you wanted to say. You can bet your childís teacher has an outline that they follow so that they donít leave anything out.

3. Come prepared with questions to ask to parent-teacher conferences. For example:

  • What is my child expected to know by the end of the year?
  • What type of tests will she be required to take?
  • What do the scores on the tests mean?
  • How are grades determined?
  • How do I know when homework has been assigned?
  • Do you offer special tutoring if my child is behind?
  • What can you do to challenge my gifted child?
  • What can I do to reinforce at home what my child is learning in class?

  • 4. Make sure that you arrive on time. The teacher is on a tight schedule, especially if they have a large class. Be considerate and donít make them wait. Also be considerate of other parents and donít go over your allotted time. If you have concerns that werenít addressed set up another time that you can meet with your childís teacher.

    5. Itís a good idea to start with a positive comment about the class or the teacher. This will help put everyone at ease.

    6. Stay open-minded. No ones child is perfect and the teacher may have some concerns. Keep your emotions under control, after all, the teacher does have your childís best interests at heart.

    Unfortunately there are sometimes conflicts between a child and their teacher. Before siding against the teacher get both sides of the story. I remember a friend saying that their child thought his teacher was picking on him when in reality the teacher was trying to get him to realize his full potential. When the teacher realized that the child was taking it negatively and the child realized the teacher was doing it because she cared the problem was resolved.

    Children whose parents are involved in their education are usually more successful in school and teachers play a huge role in that success. So isnít it worth it to develop a good parentĖteacher relationship for your childís academic success?