Increase The Romance
by Teresa, The CuteKid™ Staff
Romance – isn’t that something that happens just when a couple is dating? Doesn’t romance
end after marriage? For many couples it does but that doesn’t have to be the case in your
marriage. You can bring back romance in a marriage.
Often life seems to get in the way of romance. It was easy when you were single and
dating. There was just the two of you. You both went out of your way to let the other
know that they were important and special. Then the kids came along. Along with children
came the soccer practices, homework, and a multitude of other responsibilities. Then when
you factor in work and responsibilities around the home it seems like there really is no
time for romance. With so many things to do and so little time something else always seems
to come first. But isn’t your spouse the most important thing in your life? Shouldn’t your
relationship be a higher priority than soccer practice or having a clean house?
If you can’t seem to find time to fit romance into your life then schedule it. When you
were dating you would set a date and time to meet. So continue the practice to increase
romance. Schedule a time each week when you and your spouse spend some time alone. Plan
for romance. Get a sitter for the night or just put the kids to bed early and stay home
together. Recently I was talking to a friend who said every Friday night her parents would
ban the children from the family room and watch a movie together. They couldn’t afford a
babysitter every week but they did take the time to be together. My husband and I usually
get a babysitter once a month. The other three weekends we spend our date night at home. Since
our children are young we put them to bed at 8:00 and watch a movie or play games together.
Couples that are more romantic tend to have a stronger marriage. The bond between
them increases. Studies have shown that couples that spend more time together are better
prepared to face their week. The reason is simple while spending this time together they are
better able to work out small problems, discuss important issues, and basically get on the same
page with each other. This causes things to run more smoothly. Increasing the romance also
provides couples with down time when they can relax and regroup. It also helps improve the way
that people see and interact with each other. After a date night you will look at your spouse
more the way you did when you were dating and head over heels in love.
Romance does not have to be grandiose. Being romantic does not mean a dozen roses and a
limousine ride (although this is nice on the special occasion). Often the small things are
the most precious. Things like a love note, praising your spouse’s accomplishments, saying
thank you for the things your spouse does, or complimenting your spouse. Whatever you do
remember that in order for your marriage to survive you need romance.