Im sick and tired of hearing people whinge and whine about not having enough money to take care of their children, or enough time to spend with them, you dont need to be a millionaire to raise children well, if you start spending quality time with them from the day they are born you are off to a great start. Our job as parents begin with being a protector, provider & teacher and if we aspire to learn all we can about these 3 words, it is guaranteed to help our skills as a parent, and we may even find that it makes the experience a pleasurable one.

Kids are not born with knowledge about love, compassion, respect (for themselves and others), right from wrong, good from bad, having a good work ethic, or about learning how to trust the instincts they are born with (that gut feeling), it is up to YOU as their parent to teach them these skills and a whole lot more. Its is something you should absolutely be aware of before you start a family. You wouldnt buy a car without doing some information gathering, or you wouldnt go on a holiday without having some sort of plan, so why is it that some people start a family without getting some advise on what skills are required for this great experience.

The easiest way to explain how to put these words into actions is, "if you dont have this knowledge or skill set yourself you are probably going to have trouble teaching it". You need to learn some or all of the skills mentioned above, because once you have learnt them yourself, you will teach them automatically, do a little research, one step at a time is always good enough, and if your child/children are older and they see that you are prepared to learn, they are probably going to be more open to the experience themselves, there is some great information out there, have a look for it.

I find it bizarre that some parents seem to blame everyone else if they are having trouble controlling their children, it is a problem and just like any problem you need to put the time into finding the solution, but if you are having this trouble, you dont need to face it on your own there is lots of help out there - go and look for it.

If YOU dont have the time to put the best interest of your children first, why should you expect someone else will, your children should be able to trust you. You took on the responsibility of having them, you take the responsibility of raising them, and be damn sure you do the very best you can. Dont forget the children of today are the adults of tomorrow, the better we do our job now the happier the world will be later, so if you need to do some learning well get out there and learn.

Go back to the basics it is always a good start when you are trying to learn anything and parenting is no different.

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Mother for 19 years.